Naturally, our ideas of fashion, body types and what we find attractive has changed throughout history. We’ve re-invented ourselves to adhere to the times and, from an evolutionary perspective, to attract a mate – sometimes through choice, sometimes through evolutionary adaptation to ‘subconsciously’ protect our survival. To a large degree, this has hugely been under our control as individuals. It related to our environment, geographical location and the relative social circles. Although this did put some pressure on us through comparisons with our counterparts, the pressure was relatively limited and, to a degree, healthy.
Then came the wave of media revolution. What originally started out with iconic hip-thrusting heartthrobs such as Elvis Presley and the Rolling Stones, and curvaceous pin-ups like Marilyn Monroe and the stunning Dame Joan Collins on black and white televisions turned into the age of the magazine, when the outreach of the A-listers grew and grew; and, subsequently, social media, when the outreach of everybody grew. This opened the floodgates and soon enough, the primary focus wasn’t just on their singing and acting talents; the population began to pay an interest in who they were dating, what their favourite make up was, how to get the look and so on but this time, they weren’t just looking as a spectator, they were now beginning to learn how to replicate their looks, lifestyles and relationships… they wanted their lives but why? Did they want to sing? Did they want to act? Model? Start a business? No. They wanted to be famous and, dangerously, they were prepared to do anything to get it.
For a while this did work, hugely fueled by the ‘glamorous’ WAGS and reality stars (who incidentally became less and less glamourous, with less and less business acumen, over time, transitioning into almost ‘mainstream media’ porn stars – even worse, not just with static relatively PG photos like the formerly controversial Page 3, they started filming and openly publishing ‘videos’ of them!! – but that’s another story!). Over time, it became the norm and more and more women were turning to surgery, physiology designers and more…. – everything from designer vaginas to breast and bum implants – until eventually it became the ‘social norm.’ Even the doctors were becoming worried about the psychological impacts they were witnessing in their patients. Everybody started to look the same and, instead of being the ‘positive’ result they were trying to achieve, they soon realized that it had in fact devalued their worth. I.e. With everybody looking the same, where had their individuality gone? What about their USP? How could they earn a living without it? And, even worse, it had devalued them as women… Gone was the ‘girl power’ of the 1990’s and, now, they were worried about aging, worried about their surgery dropping and losing effect; and, with so many ’everyday’ women looking identical, flaunting their bodies more than porn stars, they realized that they’d became far too easily available to the men they’re seeking to attract (who inevitably get bored of them) and who, in the end would replace them, settling down with a natural beauty – how ironic!
But in the meantime, the damage that these men and women are doing to the confidence and self-perception of even the most confident, talented and beautiful of women is irreparable and that really isn’t fair.
Were they misunderstood, misinformed or simply misguided? The simple truth is that we all make our own decisions. Surgery, like anything in life, should not be taken lightly and, at the end of the day, the surgeons have a responsibility to behave ethically but, we too have our own responsibility to ourselves and other women.
Think of Pink: We all love the messages she sends in her song lyrics and general attitude, and who can forget the speech she gave about her daughter Willow at the VMAs but... Is the message she’s sending today any different to the pressures she sung about when she first started out in the industry over 12 years ago? Click the link to ‘Don’t Let Me Get Me’ and see.
The Message: Value Yourself Enough To Say: I Like Myself The Way I Am. I’m Good Enough. (And anybody who doesn't see that, well, you don't need them.)