When partaking in IVF, after a period of trying and failing to successfully conceive, some couples start to become more stressed and not enjoy sex as much anymore. It stops being purely an act of love, passion and enjoyment and becomes ‘all about the baby.’ The pressure for successful fertilization to take place that time combined with the rigorous expectations for the man to ‘perform on demand’ according to the woman’s ovulation cycle makes it feel like a chore and, consequently, even if the man and woman really love each other and enjoy spending time together, it just becomes more difficult for them to relax. It’s natural. However, the body notices this – both in terms of the couple’s enthusiasm to have sex and their bodies’ performances (i.e. the woman may find that she experiences mild vaginal dryness and is less turned on than before), elevated stress hormones; and also in its physiology. I.e. when stressed, a woman’s body doesn’t believe it’s the right time for her to get pregnant (considering it ‘high risk’) and will naturally go into protective mode to prevent pregnancy from occurring. For example, vaginal dryness and lack of lubrication cause the vaginal wall to become dry and hard, making it increasingly difficult for the sperm to successfully travel up through the cervix and tubes to meet the egg. As a result, a massive number of sperm will die or be destroyed during their journey, whilst others will become disorientated and travel in the wrong direction. Similarly, an otherwise very healthy and fertile man can struggle to maintain a healthy erection. These psychological feelings influence the brain’s response and the signals that it sends to the body, particularly the reproductive system; and can influence the health, vitality, mortality and morbidity of the eggs and sperm produced, as well as the Chemotactic Phenomena of the egg attracting the sperms.
In order to avoid this, and improve sexual function, it’s important that the couple relaxes, both individually and together sexually.
In recent years, it has become increasingly apparent to me that one way for them to do this is for them both to partake in a low dose prescription of Viagra as a form of couple’s therapy, which would help them to relax, reduce any sexual performance anxiety and stimulate their sexual drives and physiological responses. Of course, this would only work under the guidance of an experienced fertility specialist and when complemented by other fertility tests and treatments; however, it is very plausible that the treatment will be highly effective and help them to successfully conceive.
The interesting thing about these medications is that they dilate the blood vessels, facilitating increased blood flow within the penis and resulting in a stronger, more sustainable erection BUT they don’t just effect the penis. They also increase the blood flow to surrounding areas including the testicles and prostate, thus increasing sperm quality; and, for women, it will improve the blood flow to her ovaries, uterine lining and endometrium. That stimulates the area by making it more sensitive, more oxygenated, and creates a much ‘happier’ environment for fertilization and implantation to occur.
‘I think it may also increase a couple’s ability to have children because it gives them the opportunity to have more sex. Having pleased their partner in a relaxed mind and body experience, they’ll become happier, it will improve their confidence and they’ll begin to naturally want more sex again. It’s a win, win situation.’
That said, I understand that many women prefer to avoid medication during pregnancy to protect their baby and they are right to do so; however many also encourage their partner and themselves to follow the same protocol whilst trying to conceive (i.e. clean living, increased exercise, avoiding smoking and alcohol, avoiding medication) as they feel it may influence the health of their eggs, sperm and embryos. For example, I’ve had cases whereby a man has wanted to take medication like Viagra but his wife hasn’t wanted him to. So I just want to make it clear: taking prescribed medication leading up to pregnancy is perfectly ok, if not advisable to increase your chances of successfully conceiving a healthy baby.
DID YOU KNOW… Viagra was never intended initially to be a sexual stimulant or to treat erectile dysfunction? It was designed to treat hypertension in men, and the heightened arousal was a ‘lucky’ side effect?
I would also recommend partaking in course of periodic 4-day fasting. (Drinking only water and, if you must, some freshly steamed broccoli.) This will re-set the body, cleansing it of any toxins that it has struggled to previously purge itself of and, after the 4-days, it will stimulate the body’s natural growth hormones and you’ll experience additional positive side-effects such as clearer, healthier skin and anti-ageing effects; as well as a boost in the health and production of your eggs and sperm, increased energy levels and reduced stress.
(Note: If you are experiencing vaginal dryness or Dyspareunia, please speak to your gynaecologist before applying any lubricants as some contain ingredients that act as spermicides.)
For more information, visit, www.londongynaecologyclinic.com